Falling in love often feels a lot like falling ill. Your knees may become weak, your cheeks might be flushed, and your brain may feel foggy due to the nerves you’re experiencing. A smile from your crush can make your heart skip a beat, but the jitters might make your mouth drier than the Sahara Desert. However, all of these uncomfortable feelings are worth it to find the love of your life. And someday, the person who once filled you with nervous energy might be the only person on the planet who makes you feel calm.
But sadly, not all love stories last. And you might end up back at square one if your relationship starts fizzling out. Redditors have recently been sharing heartbreaking signs that someone is falling out of love with their partner, so we’ve gathered their thoughts below. We hope that you can’t relate to any of these replies, pandas. But if you can, remember that you deserve to love and be loved!
Heartbreaking Signs That You’re Falling Out Of Love: 1.
I just want to add that a healthy long term relationship can go through cycles where your feelings wax and wane, sometimes with different feelings in different directions. Don’t immediately assume your love is diminishing, because believe me it can come roaring back even stronger after a period of less interest.
Being appreciative makes life worthwhile, but often times it’s impossible to hold that view 24/7. Sometimes you have to get a bit lost in the weeds before understanding the true value of what you have.
Heartbreaking Signs That You’re Falling Out Of Love: 2.
Love is not a feeling. This idea of “being” in love is the modern era’s greatest lie. Love is a choice. It’s a choice to respect, honor, and be dutiful to someone even when it is not convenient – even if it sucks. Lust and desire are feelings you can “fall” out of. Love is a choice and giving up on someone is a choice, not because you “fell” out of something. Every couple I’ve talked to that had lifelong marriages always said the same thing – there are long stretches in any committed relationship where it’s stale, stagnant, and sometimes even downright unpleasant.
But it’s the choice to stay and the choice to figure out how to rekindle the relationship that is the most important thing. Abuse and affairs are different – that’s always the retort. Those two things effectively relieve the other person in the relationship of any duty to even try. But short of those two things, if you’re committing to “loving” someone, you do it even when you don’t feel like doing it. If you’re not willing to do it, then you don’t “fall out” of love, you made a choice to no longer commit to the person.
Heartbreaking Signs That You’re Falling Out Of Love: 3.
This was from some other redditor months back when this question was asked. It always stuck with me though. You can tell when you are not interested in the little things to make them happy. Like making them a snack, or the little nice text messages, or random non-sexual physical affection, or doing one of their chores for them; all unprompted. Arguably you could say that you are starting to no longer care about their happiness.
Heartbreaking Signs That You’re Falling Out Of Love: 4.
You stop sharing anything about yourself or your day because you don’t want them to know anything about you anymore. You cherish time away from them. You dread being with them. Everything about them annoys you. You don’t want to be intimate with them anymore. You do anything to pacify them or get them to leave you alone. You busy yourself with work, chores, childcare or other reasonsable responsibilities that keep you away from them. You feel complete indifference to their existence.
